How do you turn that girl you are friends with into a girlfriend? You have been friends for a long time but then one day it is like you see her for the first time. You notice every time she smiles at you and looks you in the eye, your heart beats faster. You slowly start to admit to yourself that friendship is no longer enough and you want to act on that physical attraction you feel.

The problem is you love you friendship and you would hate to mess that up by misreading signals. You are asking yourself how to convey your emotions. You think that it might be possible to evolve the relationship into something more but you don’t know how to go about it.

Don’t worry. You are not condemned to admiring her from afar. There are some simple steps that if you follow them can you can get you the woman of your dreams.

First, please be honest with yourself. Are you willing to give up the friendship that you have had? Once you start taking steps to pursue her and make her your girlfriend, you can never go back to that friendship. If you are unsure whether you want to do this then forget it.

Ok, you have decided that yes, you want to turn my friend into a girlfriend then the first step is to change her way of thinking. Women organize men into two types…boyfriends and everyone else. The trick is to get out of the “everyone else” category and into the “my boyfriend” category. How do I make her see me as a potential boyfriend?

Well men, you have to begin acting like her boyfriend. How do you do this? It’s easy! A good example would be to phone her up and tell her that whatever she planned to forget them as you are going to take her for a cocktail/dinner and a moonlight stroll. When you do this, be understated but at the same time resolute and make it an option so enticing that she can’t say no.

The lady in question may say “Oh but I have other plans with my girlfriends.” Well here comes the important bit. You have to be self-assured. Women love confident men who take the lead. It is the alpha male thing. They want a man who can take control. You have to say in reply “Hey I do not care. Cancel your plans because I am coming to pick you up at (whatever time).”

Whatever you do, don’t take her to a movie, concert, or a show on the first five dates! Why? Because you need to see her face-to-face and talk to her. Find out all about her on a deeper level. You are going to talk to her as a lover and not as a friend. You need to learn her desires, her wants, her wishes. Find out where her other boyfriends went wrong so you don’t make that mistake. You have to make her the focus of the conversation and make sure you really listen to her. Trust me, she knows when you are listening and when you are not.

Most importantly, make sure you give her a goodnight kiss. If you don’t, you are screwed because she will see you as a very nice friend who had just bought her a drink/dinner and you will be in a worse position than before.

If you follow this plan and you don’t get the response you want (i.e. she doesn’t see you that way). You have two options. You accept it and make yourself scarce in the hope that she starts to miss you and thinks that maybe you could have a future together. Or you begin working on her lack of enthusiasm. Say something similar to “I accept that you don’t see me that way UNTIL NOW BUT I understand you well and this will be the foundation of our relationship.”

In conclusion guys, you have the power to turn your friend into a girlfriend. It requires you to be bold, strong and dynamic and behave in way that shows the girl that you are the man that could take care of her and she finds attractive, therefore, perfect boyfriend material.

Special thanks to guest author Holly Franklin.

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